Tips on dating a widower
A good number of Google searches bringing readers to this blog lately have been searching for proof that their widower boyfriend loves them. Or are you engaging in the centuries old female pastime of reading between a man’s lines like they were leaves at the bottom of a tea-cup? My advice, and it’s hardly revolutionary, is simply ask. Although I have been told – by widowed folk – that sex just happens because of the loneliness and pain of loss. A widowed man who comes a courting, regardless of where he is in the mythical grief process, is perfectly able to deal with the fallout, the good, the bad and the ugly.
In an effort to ignore their grief, heal quicker or prevent loneliness, a widower will often jump into a new relationship before he is ready.
Another tip for dating a widower is to be aware of the fact that you are a unique person and should not try to emulate his previous wife in an attempt to ease his pain.
Beginning a new relationship with a man who has lost his wife might seem overwhelming, as it can present a fresh set of dating challenges and questions of proper etiquette.
New York Times writer Elizabeth Olson notes just one man's unapologetic reason to want a new wife -- he's overwhelmed by household chores, and he can't find things around the house.
When High50's Gord Smiley found himself single after losing his wife of 28 years, he thought dating again would be daunting. Sink into a deep, lengthy depression or start living again.